A quote from Knausgårds first book in the My Struggle series:
“Feelings are like water, they always adapt to their surroundings. Not even the worst grief leaves traces; when it feels so overwhelming and lasts for such a long time, it is not because the feelings have set, they can’t do that, they stand still, the way water in a forest mere stands still.”— Karl Ove Knausgård, A Death In The Family
We are responsible for shaping the ground over which our feelings flow.
"When we are no longer able to change a situation — ...we are challenged to change ourselves."— Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
It is the assumption of that responsibility, and our response to life’s questions that makes us who we are.